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“There” doesn’t exist. It simply doesn’t.

Every time you get close, your ceiling becomes your floor.

But let me first, back up.

When I came home on Monday and found a postcard in my mailbox from Patricia saying I was missed in blogland, I figured it was high time I get back to my duties.

Then when I was at the gym later that afternoon and got a text from Cris with a very similar message, I thought, “wow…this surely is a sign.”
And then a phone call from Helen after my workout was like God himself speaking and saying “girl–quit fooling around and get back to that blog!”. 
So from God’s lips to my ears, here I am. 
And this is what’s been on my mind this week. 
It’s great to hear people list my accomplishments and how far I’ve come…but I don’t always think about it in the same way they do (does anyone, really?). Now don’t get me wrong–I am the first one to acknowledge that this business I now have was created from nothing but a late night seed of an idea and has grown organically into to a successful blog, interior design business, resale business and styling work for the top Atlanta lifestyle magazines.  I truly feel like it’s quite the accomplishment, especially for a girl like me.   But I want more.  And accomplishing and achieving has helped me to become clearer about what I do and don’t want to do with my career (and my life). 
So in essence, my ceiling has become my floor. 
And I think this happens for everyone. 
The things that you once viewed as your goals end up become the foundation for your next steps, and that means there’s a lot of adjusting and recalibrating along the creative path. 
For anyone who’s ever had a dream, a goal, or even a challenge, “there” has always been this magical destination where answers come easily, life is a little less unpredictable and living gets easier.  But what every dream chaser eventually comes to find is that that place surely does not exist. Because by the time you get “there”, your latest accomplishment appears much easier than the process of getting there felt, and that goal then becomes the path by which you reach all of your new goals. 
It’s like every time you take a step towards it, it moves back a little further. 
But that’s really a good thing, because one random day you’ll look up and realize……….             your ceiling has become your floor.
And things that you were once striving for, the thing (or things) that you once thought would be the epitome of your career will one day just become another part of the foundation that you use to expand your business (or your life). 
So for me that means things like:
-relaunching my website
-having my work published nationally 
-styling photo shoots
have just become other foundational bricks upon which I build my business. And I wanted these things so badly…but when I accomplished them, that adjusted my ceiling of expectation and my old goals had just become my new normal–does that make sense??
Life is constantly expanding, shifting, adjusting, readjusting, changing course, reversing and sometimes a mix of all the above…and that’s okay! For me I’m finding that my shifting is actually leading me into expanding my ideas of what’s possible. And that is exciting. 
So there is no “there”, there’s just right here, right now.
But that alone is something to shout about. 
Thank God for the floor. 


  1. Carmeon @ CohesiveRandomness
    April 26, 2013 at 1:45 pm (5 years ago)

    Welcome back! And yes, thank God for the FLOOR! Growth and evolution is detrimental to our relationship with our work. Thank you for this!

  2. pve design
    April 26, 2013 at 4:05 pm (5 years ago)

    Reminds me of my open confession to my Priest telling him, Why with all the bad things happening in the world, I feel that God is missing. He reminded me he is always there in good times and in bad. I guess life is like that. We are always trying to look ahead and see more. Thanks for sharing your personal journey~
    Glad you are back and glad you liked the card.

  3. Cris Angsten
    April 26, 2013 at 4:05 pm (5 years ago)

    Ain’t that the truth! Glad you are back! xoxo- Cris

  4. Amanda
    April 26, 2013 at 10:11 pm (5 years ago)

    Welcome back!!! It was so nice to click on your blog today and see a new post! and what a great post too! So encouraging and gets me excited to think that one day my ceiling will become my floor.
    Thanks for all your insight and encouragement you give to us though your blog!! *hugs*

  5. Dayka
    April 28, 2013 at 9:28 pm (5 years ago)

    @PVE: And thank you for sharing your thoughts!

    My BFF and I were talking about that very thing when the school shootings happened in Boston. I say it is the quintessential theodicy of God, and I was telling her that I believe that God raises up righteous people in the midst of tragedy & chaos. Mastin also touched on this a bit in The Daily Love the other day. I’m including the link if you want to read it:

    Loved the card. TYSM!

  6. Dayka
    April 28, 2013 at 9:30 pm (5 years ago)

    @ Carmeon & Cris: Thanks for your feedback, ladies! Carmeon, I’m assuming you mean essential, right? Although detrimental makes for a MUCh funnier sentence! 🙂

  7. Dayka
    April 28, 2013 at 9:31 pm (5 years ago)

    Thank you! And one thing–your ceiling is your floor NOW! You’re already doing things now that you wished you could do years ago…I believe we ALWAYS have a floor because we’re always accomplishing, even if they’re small things. 🙂


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