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dayka robinson, harder to ignore a call than to answer, via blackcitygirl.comOn 3 separate occasions last week, I spoke with different friends who shared with me that they felt themselves being called to do something….and yet they didn’t do it. For 2 of the people, not following that calling was creating situations where they felt stuck or unhappy. For the other person, not following his calling resulted in a life-changing circumstance. These callings weren’t about following their passions in their work life (matter of fact, all of them are doing just that!), but were instead soul callings, where they felt themselves being internally drawn/called to do something new. Things that, on the surface, felt frightening because the urgings were requiring them to let go of something old & comfortable. To leave a job. To tell a secret. To be sexually adventurous. To end a relationship. To ask for what they needed.

But the thing about “losing” is this–we never really lose anything.  Something more tailored always comes a long–a situation, a person, a lesson–that is just the thing you need to help you grow into a fuller/deeper/higher version of you. But when you’re in the transition phase, it just feels like you’re losing out on the thing you’re familiar with to walk into something unknown…where being supported doesn’t feel like a guarantee. Life is always calling you to evolve & pushing you toward something greater–I just believe that our souls are wired that way. So it’s actually harder to ignore a call than to answer it because the thing about questions is, they never go away. Think you can move to a new city to escape it? Here comes the question right behind you. Think you can drown it out with an engagement ring? The question will be right there at the alter. Think you can just keep your head down & try to make yourself just BE okay? Well the question will be the 2nd (or 3rd!) person getting in bed with you every night. Because the questions/longings/urgings are there for a reason.

I question myself about this all of the time–not in a judgemental way, but as a check in. Am I here because I want to be? Is this really what I want to do? Am I trying to avoid the thing I KNOW I need to do? Because I know I won’t lie to myself about the answer. I’d be untruthful if I said that I always leap the minute a new opportunity appears because I don’t–I feel afraid sometimes too. But for me, I see my fears as signs of the things that I MUST do next because my beliefs remind me that there’s really nothing to be afraid of. And I’m not talking about the “don’t go down that alley” fear, but the “don’t take THAT client/write THAT article/tell THAT story” kinda fears…the false kind. I know those signs are markers for my next evolution and I try my damndest to do just that.

I remember the questions that ate away at me in both of my relationships & the more I tried to drown them out, the louder the noise got.  And as the noise got louder it just tainted everything that was once beautiful because staying with someone/in a job/in a city/in a friendship where your BODY is actually telling you you don’t belong just robs you of the desire to remember what was once so good about it. You deserve better–and the other person/job/location deserves someone who wants to be there as well. And in that way, it’s harder to ignore a call than to answer it. If something is calling you, know that it’s there for a reason. The call is really a glimmer of something greater that could be possible for you….if you allow it to be so. 

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  1. C Latimer
    September 23, 2015 at 1:14 pm (3 years ago)

    Thanks Dayka! You always have the right words to say. I swear I think God is speaking through you to me. You hit that on the nail in all aspects of life whether it’s pertaining to career or relationship. The question “what if” always lingers when you don’t answer. You’re definitely a moving force that motivates me to keep it pursuing my dreams and drop the dead weight (the job and HIM lol) I needed this. You made my day lovey!!

    You are something else.

    Keep posting 😉

    C. Latimer

    • DaykaRobinson
      September 23, 2015 at 11:19 pm (3 years ago)


      LOL at “the job and HIM”!! Sometimes things come to me at the oddest times and I’m trying more & more to heed the call and just WRITE about them. Every time someone tells me that they were thinking the same thing, or what I wrote was just what they needed to hear, it confirms that I’m on the right path–so thank you. And your dreams–yes, pursue them!! As the saying goes, what the world really needs is more people willing to do just that. I’m glad to have been a day maker for you…thank you for making mine with your comment. 😉


  2. ElleX
    September 25, 2015 at 11:50 pm (3 years ago)

    You published this on my birthday! Although I am just now reading this it was right on time. Fear is/was keeping me from doing some things that I know I need to do. Your words have put me back on track.

    Thank you for writing this post…I needed to read this.

    • DaykaRobinson
      September 27, 2015 at 1:12 am (3 years ago)

      Happy belated birthday, ElleX!

      As Elizabeth Gilbert says, there’s fear that protects us when we’re facing harm, and then there’s the kind that gets us all riled up about nothing–the kind that does its best to keep us from that thing we KNOW we need to do! Fear is great when we need it for survival but no so great when we’re just trying to leave a job that sucks. Or a end a relationship that we’ve out grown. If the things you need to do won’t be putting you in danger…..then go after them. What’s the worst that could happen??!

      I hop you had a fantastic birthday and wish you all the best as you embark on this personal new year! (and thank YOU for reading AND commenting!)



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