3.17.2014

WHERE I'VE BEEN, WHAT I'M DOING...OH, AND HAPPY NEW YEAR!


Happy New Year!!!!

I can't believe it's been 3 months since my words have touched this blog! I never intended to be away for this long but life got in the way around Thanksgiving of last year and rolled right on through February, which then kicked off a super crazy month of work, a bad gastrointestinal illness AND a milestone birthday. Are you tired yet?? Needless to say, I figured I better get something together before you all think I deserted you! 

I typically love the beginning of the year for what it represents--a fresh start & a time to set challenging goals and plans for the upcoming year...lots of thinking about what I'd like to see happen in my personal life and business during the year and figuring out what it will take to make those goals happen. Everything has been so back to back for me over the past few months that I JUST clarified my goals last week! I really wanted to do a post like the one I did last year--and maybe I still will--but for now, just sharing them with you will be an accomplishment. I figure they're better late than never!

So on to the news. Last year.
Right before Thanksgiving we found out that my 91 year old grandmother, the one I talked about here, had lymphoma or cancer of the lymph nodes. She found a lump during the summer but has always been in really good health (I mean, she was substitute teaching up until about 2 years ago), so she didn't really see a pressing issue. She spent her summer going to the centennial anniversary of her beloved sorority, Delta Sigma Theta, and then spent October visiting friends in California and attending her high school class reunion with her lifelong best friend. When I tell you granny had some spunk, know that I tell you no lie! After visiting the doctor while in California her diagnosis came back end of October and though we didn't know exactly how much time she had, we knew that it was serious. My sister and I immediately rearranged our Thanksgiving plans and flew to Seattle to be with my mom & grandma for the holiday. My grandma was still very chatty and VERY much her normal self (runnin' things AND people), minus her ability to get around on her own, but it was clear she was in pain. She was put in hospice (home care) shortly after we arrived and my mom asked me to extend my visit to help her care for my granny. My 8 day visit (with 4 days of clothes!) turned into a 6 week experience that I'll never forget. 



To be honest, my grandmother and I were never really close. There was always a love there, but she and my sister were the ones with the extra special relationship. I never planned, nor wanted, really, to be a caretaker in her final days, but that's just what ended up happening and it was probably one of the best experiences of my life. My grandma passed away right before Christmas and she was pretty much coherent until 1 or 2 days before she passed. I'm thankful that I'm self-employed and had the ability to take off to be with my mom & grandma during those 7 weeks. I was able to make my grandma's food, give her her medicine, prepare her water bottles (everything to her exact specifications!), and talk with her about her life during our weeks together. In the end, we were able to share a love that we never really could during the course of her life and it was...dare I say, kind of magical. I was also able to spend a ton of time with my mom, which I never would've had otherwise, and it reminded me why I like her so much! Even in the midst of the chaos, I'd definitely say that I had a good visit.
So I stayed with my mom until after Christmas, at which time she flew back to Atlanta with me for a week and then back home to prep for my grandmother's memorial service at which we were hosting a lot of people from as far as New Jersey and Florida. Though it wasn't the opportune occasion, it was SO good to see all of the people my family has loved and known for years come to Seattle to celebrate my grandma's life. In the end she was very comfortable and ready. She told me one day, "I'd like to live to 100 but if I don't that's okay...I can't really complain about getting cancer at 91." I loved her perspective.  So the end of January meant another trip out to Seattle which meant that December and January flew by in a whirlwind...not much time for anything other than family obligations. 

And that brings us to February. In the midst of catching up on all of my unattended business from November, December & January, I'm working with 3 new clients, 1 renovation project, my own laundry room makeover and am also working with FlynnsideOut Productions as a Project Designer which consists of lots of design work, prop styling, and getting to work with great brands like Target, HGTV Home, AutoTrader and more. To say my cup is running over is an understatement! When I was writing out my goals I took stock of all that's swirling around me I realize that everything I've said I wanted over the past few years has been spoken into existence.  It's exciting to know that there's so much more to do and much higher goals to set...believe me, I'm setting them. I've also been really reflective about the power of speaking words of positivity and encouragement into your OWN life...things might not always happen when you want them to, but they WILL happen. I'm living proof. I should tell you, things are going well for Dayka Robinson and Dayka Robinson Designs.

Oh! And I celebrated my 35th birthday on February 25th (but I don't look a day over 25, trust me!).  For the first time in a decade I threw a great dinner party with 18 of my closest friends and had thee best birthday.
Everything I ever wanted. 
(see proof below)





So things are good.
And while I've been super busy with family obligations & work there's been lots of cause for celebration on the business front, too.
More on that to come!

11 comments:

SHERRY HART said...

Welcome back Dayka! Glad to see things are going well.....and there you go throwing that party back in my face again....:)

Dayka Robinson said...

Bwahahhahahaha!!! Last time, I promise. ;-)

Kimberly said...

Nope! You don't look a day over 25. Love your openness in this post. Glad to hear that although things ended on a bit of a sad note in 2013 that things are going so well for you personally and for Dayka Robinson Design in 2014. Thanks for the reminder that blessings arrive in their own perfect time! Continued blessings to you.

Gina Sims said...

Dayka! I can't believe all that has happened but I am especially glad you had those precious days and weeks with your grandma. I know that meant the world to her. Bless you for giving of yourself that way. I am so excited to hear of your new ventures too! YAY! All this and MORE to you in 2014, friend!

Kimberly Lemmon said...

I'm happy to hear things are going well for you and that you took the time to care for and get to spend time with your family. What a beautiful gift to you and to your grandmother. Looking forward to hearing more about your professional developments, Dayka!

dressmyroom said...

The power of words and deeds! We have had very similar personal and professional moments. I can't wait to see all of what 2014 has in store. Cheers!!!

dressmyroom said...

The power of words and deeds! We have had very similar personal and professional experiences. I can't wait to see what else 2014 has in store. Cheers!!!

LiveLaughDecorate said...

Welcome back to this space lady. You've been missed. So happy you were finally able to bond with your grandma. Sometimes life works in the strangest of ways.

Dayka Robinson said...

My lady friends! Thank you all for your comments. ;-) It was ABSOLUTELY a blessing to be able to spend those last few weeks with my grandma and bond with my mom. I love looking back over last year and seeing how everything was set up to allow me to even have that time. I'm so excited to be back on my blog and can't wait to share all the good stuff with you guys. Thanks for keeping up with me!

Xo,
Dayka

Kayla said...

Dayka
Surely I was meant to click on your post and read about your business. You are amazing. Also sharing with your followers about the time with your grandmother reminded me how it is never too late to make a bond.
I needed to be inspired to move forward with my design aspirations after recovering from my Mother's death. You did that for me. Thank you.

Kayla said...

Dayka
Surely I was meant to click on your post and read about your business. You are amazing. Also sharing with your followers about the time with your grandmother reminded me how it is never too late to make a bond.
I needed to be inspired to move forward with my design aspirations after recovering from my Mother's death. You did that for me. Thank you.

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