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To relax or not to relax? That is the question.

In 2005 I cut my hair off in an attempt to grow out my relaxer and I suffered through that AWFUL growing out phase.  It was rough (those of you who have been through it can attest) and I’m already impatient, so it made a difficult situation worse.  I felt like a little boy. 🙁  Not a good look.  Fast forward to October/December of 2006 and I was back in the game. Long enough for me to rock a center part and not look like “Detroit Red”. Hallelujah! I didn’t like having to deal with a cold, wet head in the wintertime, but I was happy to have a cold, wet, curly head, so it was okay.  In the summer of 2007 I found a salon (Too Groovy) that made my hair look like I was steppin’ off the runway. I mean FLY, and they got me in an out in an hour and a half (black women, pick up your jaws, it’s true). So I started getting my hair done every week.  I didn’t pay attention to the fact that with each service my hair was becoming straighter and straighter, until I looked up one day and couldn’t go back curly. By this time a year had passed.  I cut a few inches off last summer and am trying to grow out my hair which now looks like I’m growing out a relaxer.  A good portion is curly, but the ends around the front are straight, so I look like a fool. My options are: 1) stay the course and fight the good fight, 2) cut the ends off and cry while rocking it short AGAIN, 3) let go of my dreams and the stress and relax my hair. What do you think???

3 Comments on To relax or not to relax? That is the question.

  1. Kim
    June 4, 2009 at 12:38 pm (9 years ago)

    My hair is relaxed and I wear it short. Recently I went to a new salon and the stylist did not take down the back of my hair as I would have liked (i.e. shaved it low). She was able to straighten the little “kinks” that had formed. As the days have gone by, the “kinks” have returned. They are a little bit rough at times, but once properly oiled (lol!), I love the way the curl feels. For a minute, I thought, maybe, just maybe, I could try the natural look. I ran my fingers through my hair, feeling the new growth that was taking over and realized that summer in New York will be brutal to any kind of attempt I may have at beginning a natural look. I think that is best reserved for Fall and Winter months when you can cover up if need be. Depending on how long you have been deciding (I’m too lazy to look back and re-read), maybe waiting til the end of summer may be a good idea.


  2. Dayka
    June 8, 2009 at 9:55 pm (9 years ago)

    Oh, the great debate! Today I feel like relaxing, but I’m worried about how I may feel tomorrow . . . . having short hair makes the choice much easier.

  3. tempe salon
    June 10, 2013 at 3:08 am (5 years ago)

    Hello my name is Sara and i am doing a job in a salon. Most of the people come for make curly hair and you are lucky that you have curly hair. You are looking beautiful and nice with curly hair style. Don’t worry…


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